3. Adopt A "Who Cares?" Attitude
A lot of things considered "cool" or "attractive" require us to be uncomfortable, whether that’s trying to obtain a body shape that isn’t natural, squeezing into tight jeans when you’re having a flare-up, or just trying your best to not "look" disabled.
At the end of the day, not all aids can be inconspicuous, just as my illness is not always going to be inconspicuous. That’s when adopting a who gives a ****? attitude can be really helpful.
Chances are, people are going to be far more focused on what you’re doing than the aid you’re using to do it with anyway. Here's a personal example: I wore a heavy-duty ankle support when I went for my taekwondo black belt. Afterwards another candidate, whom I had never met before, came up to me. At first, I was worried he was going to comment on my ankle. Instead, he just said he thought my technique looked amazing – if he'd noticed that aid, he’d forgotten pretty quickly.
Sometimes, of course, the stares and comments come when you’re just going about your daily life. Remember that this is a problem with others' manners, not with you. The way I see it, people look because they’re interested in me, and I ignore them because I’m not interested in them.
Again, it takes practice and sometimes it can be really hard. But, ultimately, you’re the one living this life in this body, so it’s really not anyone else’s business if you do things a bit differently.