Will I ever be a Mum?
This is what I worried about when I was first diagnosed. Before beginning my medication, one of the first questions I was asked by my rheumatologist at 28; 'do you want children' and most importantly 'do you want them now?' How do you answer that? Marc and I hadn't had that discussion. What if he said no? For us, it was yes, but, not right now.
Reading and ‘googling’, I was shocked and horrified when I read about methotrexate and was always worried that it would lead to infertility (which I now understand to be highly unlikely).
Everyone talks about the journey to parenthood. For some it is quick, for others it takes years and for us, it was somewhere in the middle. Diagnosed with unexplained infertility, which I now think may have been a timing issue on our part and also a consequence of an unpredictable disease making it hard to plan and make time to do the deed. In the month we received IVF funding, I had started a new biologic drug, we also finally had the positive pregnancy test we had been longing for.
After what felt like a lifetime, 6 years post diagnosis, Aeon came into the world at a tiny 5 pounds 7. Now having just passed his fourth Christmas, here is what I have learnt - how living with rheumatoid arthritis can give you the strength to get through those hard and sleepless first few years of parenthood.